Teacher used the F word in SEN school and got away with it!

On Monday 27th March 2017 my son mentioned over dinner that his teaching assistant had used the F word, twice! I was shocked, I wont lie - so I asked him to tell me exactly what had happened that would make the teaching assistant lower herself to using foul language.

This is a "Special School" in Hertfordshire for children with special educational needs and autism.
He said that he was being followed by the said TA, now this has to be done because he absconds most days and is difficult to control.

He told me that he was messing around with a friend and said to his friend in jest that he was being followed by some weirdo - referring to the TA - Now my son has "Pathological Demand Avoidance" which is a complex autistic spectrum disorder!

The TA then shouted twice "I'm not a Fuck*ng weiro" This suprised my son because teachers and TAs do not swear!

He also told me that she is leaving this week - it's her final week before she retires!

Talk about blurred lines - My son is the 13 year old child with communication deficits - Not the teacher - and what's more she shouted it in front of two other teachers!

The following day Tuesday 28th March I rang the school to complain - I really don't feel comfortable with TAs who think it's acceptable to use the F word like that in front of my son - intending him to hear what she was shouting - but not aiming it directly at him (if you know what I mean)

The head teacher was busy so she asked the deputy head to call me back. I explained what had happened and expressed my discontent with a TA using foul language and conducting herself in an unprofessional manner - He said that she is usually a very nice TA who has worked in the school for 25 years - I'm sure she is a very nice person - but that is not the point!!

I left it at that with the promise of him (looking into it) I rang again on Wednesday 29th to speak to the deputy head again, I had decided that she must apologise to my son for her vulgarity! Nothing major just a simple "verbal apology" I thought that my son deserved an apology at the very least.

As no-one was available to speak with me I left a message with the office to pass the message on to the said TA, and that I wanted the apology delivered to my son by Thursday the 30th at the latest otherwise I was writing a formal complaint to the Local Authority.

No apology came - the message was delivered to the TA I checked with the school office.
So no action was taken, and my son obviously doesn't warrant an apology!

I decided to phone BBC Three Counties Radio to Highlight this story on the Jonathon Vernon Smith phone in - Why should TAs or anyone in a position of Authority get away with swearing like this - in a special school too! I'm so angry at the complete contempt for my son and that no-one actually cares that this TA lost it with him - well, she doesn't have to be nice to him anymore does she - she's retiring!

Anyone who has walked the same path as us - having a child with special needs - especially PDA will know and understand how stressful and difficult it is getting anyone from the LA to support you, or help you - we certainly haven't had any! Trying to educate the "professionals" about PDA is like pulling teeth with no pain relief! This journey I will write about another time. For now - watch this space. It's Friday 31st March at midday and no-one from BBC Three Counties has called me back like they said they would - but I intend following my complaints and threats through.



Rosacea! Natural make-up & skincare using TROPIC SKINCARE RANGE

For people prone to rosacea, make-up can be an important tool to help you feel your best and increase your confidence. While there are many make-up products that will cover areas of redness, some brands may use harsh ingredients that can actually worsen rosacea symptoms and leave your skin feeling dry, irritated and inflamed.
In this article you will learn natural make-up and skin care tips to create a flawless complexion, and to help reduce the appearance of redness caused by rosacea.
What is rosacea?
Rosacea is a common chronic skin condition, often mistaken for acne or sunburn. The face becomes flushed due to dilation of small blood vessels close to the surface of the skin. It is often accompanied with severe dryness and irritation around the chin, cheeks, nose and forehead.
Rosacea is characterised by redness and inflammation in the skin accompanied by spots on the skin and, in the condition’s later stages, irritation of the eyes and swelling of the nose (rhinophyma), which is more common in men although the condition itself is more common in women.
In its early stages rosacea appears as flushed cheeks and slight redness, and can easily be mistaken for simple blushing. Later it progresses to persistent redness, then to noticeable pimples and papules, which can look a lot like an acne outbreak - treating it as one however can do more harm than good, as many acne skin care products contain harsh ingredients which may aggravate the skin.

Symptoms of rosacea can include:

·       Episodes of flushing
·       Burning and stinging sensations
·       Permanent redness
·       Spots (papules and pustules)
·       Small blood vessels in the skin becoming visible

Causes of rosacea

Whilst the exact cause of rosacea is unknown there are several triggers which have been known to make the condition worse.
Rather than just coming and going on its own, rosacea is triggered by environmental factors, the most common being exposure to strong sunlight. A sunscreen that contains Zinc oxide or Titanium dioxide to reflect sunlight, rather than absorbing UV radiation with chemicals like salicylates and benzophenones is essential for many rosacea sufferers.
" Rosacea is triggered by environmental factors, the most common being exposure to strong sunlight. "

Finding out what triggers your rosacea is a significant step to preventing it from recurring.

The most common triggers of rosacea include: ​

·       exposure to sunlight
·       stress
·       certain chemical ingredients in skin care products
·       exercise
·       cold weather (wind)
·       heat
·       menopause
·       certain medications
·       hot drinks
·       alcohol and caffeine
·       eating certain foods, such as spicy foods

Diet for rosacea

·       Avoid steaming hot soup, coffee, alcohol, hot spices and spicy foods
·       Other foods that often trigger flare-ups include cheese, sour cream, yoghurt, citrus fruits, liver, chocolate, vanilla, soy sauce, yeast extract, vinegar, aubergines, avocados, spinach, broad-leafed beans and pods, and foods high in histamine or niacin

Rosacea skin care tips

Many high-street cleansers and make-up removers contain harsh ingredients like alcohol (ethyl alcohol/ethanol), which can make the condition worse even if it isn't one of your triggers. Try switching to our range of Tropic Skincare products which don’t contain the chemical ingredients that can trigger or aggravate rosacea, allowing you to concentrate on removing the causes and preventing the symptoms from progressing.

Here are a few natural skin care tips for rosacea:

·       Avoid hot water, hot tubs and saunas. These can bring on flushing and aggravate your condition
·        Sip cold drinks or suck ice cubes or spray your face with cool water or a Vitamin-based toner
·       In cold weather cover your cheeks and nose with a scarf
·       Use a gentle Tropic Moisturiser Skin Revive during cold weather to protect against the drying effects of cold and wind
·       Avoid rough wash cloths, brushes or sponges
·       Begin each day with a thorough and gentle facial cleansing. Use a cleanser like Smoothing cleanser that is not grainy or abrasive and spread it with your fingertips. Rinse your face with lukewarm water to remove dirt and any remaining cleanser and use Tropic Bamboo cloth to gently blot dry the face. Immediately follow with a moisturiser like Skin Revive.
·       Use natural, silicone-free make-up

Make-up tips for rosacea

1. Avoid make-up wipes

The backlash against cleansing wipes is well and truly underway, and for good reason. Make-up wipes can be drying and irritating, especially on sensitive, rosacea-prone skin. The harsh, synthetic ingredients often used in make-up wipes, can put your skin out of its healthy balance by stripping it of moisture and beneficial oils. 
Instead of cleansing wipes, we recommend using a natural cream cleanser and lukewarm water to wash your face before make-up application. Use a soft, clean cloth to remove your cleanser and avoid washing your face in the shower, as hot water can be drying for your skin.
Our Daily Essentials ABC Skincare collection of Smoothing Cleanser, Vitamin Toner, Skin Revive and Eye Refresh Routine will to help calm redness and leave the skin feeling soft and nourished. Our Smoothing Cleanser is suitable for those prone to rosacea, eczema and psoriasis. 

2. Prime with a natural moisturiser

One of the easiest ways to improve the look of your make-up is to ensure that your skin is properly moisturised.  Tropics ABC Skincare Collection is the perfect choice to keep your skin nourished and healthy.This is particularly important for rosacea sufferers, as areas of dryness can cause your make-up to look patchy, and redness will appear more prominent.
If you have dry skin that is prone to rosacea, we recommend priming your skin with our deeply hydrating Super Greens Serum which is rich in antioxidants of Green coffee and Tamanu oils while also gentle on sensitive skin. If your skin is oilier, try using our Sensitive Organic Elixir age defying oil which is deeply moisturising with a lightweight feel.
Apply a pea-sized amount of moisturiser or serum 5-10 minutes before applying your make-up, to get a seamless, natural looking coverage that lasts much longer.

3. Use silicone-free foundation

Foundations that claim to be waterproof, pore-minimising, or to have a blurring effect on the skin, may contain pore-blocking ingredients such as silicone, which can aggravate rosacea-prone skin. Silicones act like a barrier on the surface of your skin, preventing it from properly absorbing moisture and getting rid of toxins, which can lead to blocked pores and irritation. Check the ingredients list for ‘dimethicone’ if you wish to avoid silicone in make-up.
Mineral foundation is ideal for correcting an uneven skin tone and suitable for people prone to rosacea and acne rosacea. Tropic Pure Confidence Mineral Make-up are non-pore-clogging, silicone-free and breathable, to provide buildable, long-lasting coverage that looks beautifully natural.

4. Don’t be scared of blusher

If your skin is prone to rosacea you may avoid wearing blusher, believing that it exaggerates existing redness that you would rather conceal. I recommend applying a small amount of blusher to the apples of your cheeks and blending well in circular motions with a Tropic Bamboo brush. Tropic Contour, Colour and Highlight Sculpting Palette, an innovative 3 – step palette to contour and highlight. Enriched with pomegranate seed oils.

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